10 Tips for the Modern Mother of the Bride (or Groom)

Jenny Martell Photography

It’s really happening! You’re going to be a mother-of-the-bride (MOB) or -groom (MOG). Your daughter or son got engaged, and you’ve been invited to be a part of the journey. Let’s explore ten must-have tips that’ll have the newly engaged lovebirds eating out of the palm of your hand.

TIP #1: SAY YES TO HER DRESS
Your daughter emerges from the dressing room, and you try to blink back the tears. What if it comes down to that dress and another one that your daughter absolutely loves? Pat her hand and tell her how beautiful she looks. It’ll be worth it when she gives you a grateful smile.


TIP #2: SERVE AS EMOTIONAL ANCHOR
Those “to-do” lists are daunting! But don’t hesitate to sit and talk with your daughter or son. It might seem like you’ve got less pull as the Head Mother in Charge, but you might find that they really appreciate your emotional support during this hectic season of life.

TIP #3: STEP BACK ON OCCASION
You’re itching to add pins to their Pinterest board and start tagging them on Facebook. Just make sure, as you start making suggestions, that you are taking the couple’s lead. Ultimately, they make the final decisions about their wedding day. Offer up ideas lightly and be graceful if they go in a different direction. (Emily Post)

TIP #4: COME IN WITH THE SAVE
We’ve all been there. Something goes wrong. Panic ensues. What do we do?! That’s why it’s always a good idea to have a backup copy of any key information relating to the wedding. Even if the couple has their planning neatly organized, you’ll turn into Super Mom in their eyes when you whip out extra copies. (Emily Post)

TIP #5: KNOW YOUR ROLE AS MOG
As mother-of-the-groom, what role do I play in the wedding? A good rule-of-the-thumb is to defer to the MOB. Aside from the rehearsal dinner, traditionally the bride’s parents are the hosts for the ceremony, reception, and events that lead up to the wedding day. As MOG, always discuss your plans first with the bride’s parents. (Emily Post)

 TIP #6: MAKE WISE SHOE CHOICES
Your daughter’s or son’s wedding is not the place to start breaking in your new stilettos. Plan on wearing dressy shoes that have a comfortable heel. If it’s a garden wedding, consider wearing a platform wedge, block heel, or flat to avoid sinking into the grass. (Martha Stewart Weddings)

TIP #7: ENJOY THE MORNING-OF
How early do I need to be there? That’s right. The bridal party likes to have plenty of time for hair and makeup, but it’s also a chance for you to bond with your daughter in her last single hours. Put on your MOB bathrobe and join in the fun of the festivities. Don’t let the moments pass too soon. (Bridal Guide)

TIP #8: GO SHOPPING TOGETHER
Shop for an outfit that will complement the bridesmaids. The bride chooses the bridesmaid’s dresses first, followed by the MOB, and then the MOG. Don’t be afraid to work together (MOBs and MOGs) on outfit selections. In terms of color, it’s best to look for neutrals like silver and champagne. (Martha Stewart Weddings)

TIP #9: DRESS IN CHAMPAGNE
What’s the hot color right now? According to Yolanda Carita, sales manager for Mon Cheri, MOBs are styling champagne-colored dresses. It will look good in any season, and it stands out without drawing attention. (The Knot)

TIP #10: LOOK FOR LACE DESIGNS
Lace isn’t only for the bride. Mother-of-the-bride designers are incorporating lace on bodices, on straps, and as an allover effect. Chantilly lace, Alençon lace, and other variations are the latest trends in MOB dress design. The luxurious, detailed designs add an element of romance while keeping a sophisticated look.

At Molly’s Bridal, you don’t need an appointment to have a consultation with a stylist in our Special Occasion department. Find out more about our mother-of-the-bride selection.